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Welcome to StressFreed

What is a trauma?

A trauma is a moment in time where a person has received a sudden physical or emotional blow that they were not able or willing to completely tolerate. Because of this, it becomes buried in the mind where the contents can later act as a post-hypnotic suggestion and cause unwanted effects to the person. A trauma could be roughly compared to a foreign object to the body, like a piece of shrapnel, a parasite, or a virus, where the body cannot assimilate it, but may accommodate its presence indefinitely. A trauma could also be properly called a toxic memory. In StressFreed processing, we are concerned with releasing these toxic memories and getting rid of the effects of trauma and stress. We will help you address the source of the problem and not just address the effects. We will help you do both.

Examples of extreme trauma include auto and other accidents; sports injuries; loss of a loved one or a favorite pet through death or departure; loss of one's job or occupation; public humiliation; divorce; loss of home or other possessions, violent experiences such as war; child abuse, physical and/or emotional abuse, sexual assault, muggings, rape, armed robberies, and other violent crimes. Other less violent trauma, including moments of embarrassment, rejection, shame, regret, self doubt, and other emotional upsets, can also bring about a major and long lasting impact on your life. Some of these would qualify as mini-traumas, yet still damaging to your emotional balance. They may be much less traumatic, but they usually occur far more frequently.

At times, these "mini-traumas" may also turn out to be at least as significant as the more obvious traumas. Some other events that tend to increase stress such as a "mid-life crisis" or menopause may fall somewhere in between. There are seasonal and holiday stresses. A lack of sunlight in winter has a depressing effect on many individuals. Each case is individual as to a person's response to the environment and events taking place in the daily life.

Traumas (and mini-traumas) are not restricted to things done to one by others. Chronic feelings of guilt, for instance, can result from being a cause of others' suffering, whether witting or unwittingly. This may be something like accidentally hitting and injuring a pedestrian, an animal or another car and injuring other people. Chronic feelings of insecurity can result from such things as parents fighting during childhood. Recurring symptoms of illness can stem from such things as your own desire for illness during your school years as a means to escape the classroom. Trauma can also be caused by doing things to others, others doing things to others, and doing things to oneself. In addition, one can be traumatized by failing to do what you feels you should have, such as reconcile differences with a now-departed loved one.

The anatomy of trauma

A trauma starts when an event happens too rapidly for the person experiencing it to easily assimilate the occurrence. The entire event does get recorded on a certain part of the memory bank often referred to as the subconscious mind. Along with the pain, this event is recorded subconsciously and contains all the perceptions of the traumatic event. Because of this association between the pain and those perceptions, just the re-experiencing of those perceptions, later on in life, can bring on feelings of similar pain and/or painful emotions along with it.

This is actually a primitive defense mechanism of bodies that is intended to teach them not to go near the source of past pain as it may mean death. This kind of knee-jerk reaction mechanism that may have had survival value during evolutionary periods of the body, is no longer useful since it now adds to trauma and stress to the person. In modern society, human intelligence is more than adequate to replace that mechanism. A person is ALWAYS better off without these trigger mechanisms and can handle situations far better with intelligent judgment than with automatic responses. In fact, reaction time to emergencies is not reduced in the slightest by removing past trauma. A person can always instantaneously remove their hand from a hot stove, for instance, whether they have had a trauma connected with it or not. But with the trauma removed from their subconscious mind, the person, while still having a healthy respect for stoves, will not be irrationally afraid of them.

In essence, a StressFreed session is a systematic way of uncovering and releasing the pain and hidden suggestions buried in the subconscious part of the mind, thus restoring to the person the freedoms the trauma took away by imposing restrictions on your behavior.

What kinds of unwanted effects can be produced by trauma?

Emotional effects of trauma can include anxiety, painful memories, hopelessness, dependencies, fixed attitudes, stress, worries, sadness, repressions, shyness, hostilities, anger, rage, fear, tension, emotional hurt, compulsions, depression, inabilities, regret, guilt, and a myriad of other conditions.

Trauma can have a major effect on your physical state including such conditions as chronic fatigue, amnesia, heart problems, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, and many other physical disabilities and ailments.

StressFreed processing itself does not cure any of these conditions, nor does it replace necessary medical treatment. The natural direction of a human being is toward health and sanity. What StressFreed processing does is to remove the obstructions that might stand in the way of the body and mind healing itself of the effects of toxic memories, and subsequently experiencing recovery.

In any case, unresolved trauma adds up to dead weight a person carries around in their mind. Even if they forgets about past traumatic events, the influence will still be there as a drag on life in one capacity or another. After a person is used to carrying this weight around and even reacting irrationally, you may hear them say, "Well, this is just the way I am." Or, you may hear, "Ive been this way all my life and I am not about to change." The release of this stress and reactiveness due to past trauma can make that person feel instantly lighter and freer, a new person.

Stress, trauma, and unwanted conditions

Emotional stress is normally brought on by mini-traumas. It is well known that there is a connection between stress and such ailments as ulcers, heart problems and high blood pressure, to name a few. One figure estimates that 70% of physical ailments are psychosomatic in origin. A familiar and readily observable pattern here is: emotional stress causing negative emotional feelings; prolonged emotional stress leading to repeated or lasting negative emotional feelings (moodiness); long-term emotional stress leading to physical deterioration.

The best approach is to take advantage of StressFreed processing in that period immediately following a traumatic experience or when you become aware of increased stress. It is, of course, best if you can catch this prior to where physical deterioration begins to take its toll.

Relationships, whether personal or business, should not be allowed to get to the point where they negatively affect one's emotional or physical health. StressFreed processing provides the necessary emotional cleansing to keep one's slate clean and one's life focused on creating a healthy and happy future.

What is StressFreed?

StressFreed is a set of techniques which neutralize the emotionally and physically painful effects of trauma. It is based largely on the idea of regression therapy, but with no need for hypnosis as a means of approaching or resolving the trauma. In fact, hypnosis is not the best method for dealing with past trauma since the person in a trance is not fully in control of his/her faculties. The modern method of non-hypnotic style (fully awake) regression is easy, safe, and highly effective in resolving traumatic experiences of various types. This may including relationship and family situations as well as workplace or professional situations.

StressFreed processing is done entirely in a session environment. One need not, for instance, return to a war zone in order to eradicate haunting memories of war. Similarly, a mugging victim need not directly confront his or her attacker in order to neutralize the trauma of the attack.

StressFreed processing works by using the safe and natural method of simply reversing the process by which one receives the trauma. There seems to be a general but erroneous agreement that while a traumatic memory can be brought about which can thereafter persist and adversely affect one's life, its creation cannot be consciously reversed. By what rule of logic is this true? Admittedly, receiving a trauma is simpler than neutralizing one, since the former can be done haphazardly while the latter must be done deliberately and in the correct way. However, now that the methods have been pioneered by which trauma can successfully be neutralized, there is no longer any reason to continue to suffer as a result of them, or have to "learn to live with them". No longer does one have to concede to a trauma, thinking "I have to live with the pain of this memory every day, and I'll have to do so for the rest of my life". To think that breakthroughs can only occur in the mechanical realm (like computer technology, for instance) and not in the humanistic realm is folly.

How does StressFreed help to eradicate physical and emotional pain?

The processee* or client is carefully guided and directed as to which traumatic areas of the past to address, and exactly how to address them so that they are normalized and become memories just like any other memory. If a trauma is composed of a huge event occurring in a short span of time so that it overwhelms a person, then the obvious solution would be to "stretch out" the memory of the event so that it can finally be assimilated just like any other memory. Accomplishing this takes the skills of an experienced facilitator with knowledge and training in the handling of traumatic experiences. The results are often seen as "miraculous".

*Processee: The one receiving StressFreed processing while in session. Processee is a term that can be used in lieu of client or patient in order to distinguish someone who is bettering them self from someone who is physically or mentally ill. A facilitator of StressFreed processing is also known as a processor.

About telephone sessions

Facilitating over the telephone is the modern application of receiving a session. Some might be prone to conclude that the results of sessions by phone would be inferior to face-to-face for one reason or another. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. Phone processing has proven to be very effective with stable wins. We have also been using Skype Internet free phone facilities to providing sessions for our worldwide clients. With phone sessions:

* there is no need for concern regarding transportation or distance.
* one can get sessions from virtually anywhere in the country or even in the world.
* one can get sessions even while on vacation at a remote location.
* transportation and waiting time is saved.
* scheduled appointments can be more easily met.
* one can receive sessions while relaxing in one's favorite easy chair, in familiar surroundings.
* the processee can express his or her feelings and emotions liberally without feeling self conscious about it.

How does StressFreed processing differ from the average trauma counseling?

StressFreed processing is part of a relatively new form of delivering a session and developed over the past 30 years. The processing is the application of releasing and freeing techniques, and is another word for facilitating. Processing could come under the general heading of facilitating but it is a specialized kind of facilitating where the processor (facilitator) does not "psychoanalyze" the processee (client) or tell them what or how they should think, but rather guides them toward finding their own answers that are real to them. It has been found that to evaluate for the processee will tend to cause a dampening effect on their own cognitive skills. One major secret to the success of StressFreed processing is the fact of allowing the processee to cognize about their own case without evaluation by the processor, thus increasing a sense of self determination and a true understanding of themself. In fact, StressFreed processing could be called assisted self-realization.

With StressFreed processing, the goal is not for the processee to gain the ability to be able to live with their toxic memories. Stress Free processing is not to get the processee to "forgive" someone or "let go of" or "put it behind you and forget" something, only to have the memory, along with its unwanted feelings, creep back at a later date. Burying the trauma is not the answer either. The goal of StressFreed processing is to totally eradicate the unwanted effects of trauma by transmuting the trauma into the standard memory it should have been all along. This is a fairly new direction for any stress and trauma related processing.

StressFreed sessions are based on resolution rather than time, as is the usual one-hour-appointment sessions. A StressFreed session typically lasts anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours. The facilitated session ends on a positive, uplifting note. We want the processee feeling freer and less stressed than when they started. The trauma and accompanying unwanted condition is often lessened or even resolved in a session or moving toward that resolve and release with a series of sessions addressing a particular issue or condition.

StressFreed sessions do not meander aimlessly, but focus directly on the resolution of the trauma(s) that may be behind an unwanted condition effecting the processee's physical, mental, emotional and even spiritual well being. StressFreed sessions are standard and predictable in their results

Why get StressFreed processing in the first place?

How many people do not have to deal with some personal issues? Fifty percent of marriages end with divorce. Everybody runs across trials and tribulations in life. Some are more able to hide them than others, but we all have or have had them.

Every now and then, we could all benefit by having someone who is able to really listen and hear us when we need to talk about our problems. However, the average person is not qualified to listen dispassionately, understand, and point one in the correct direction to resolve the problems. The processee needs to be able to place their trust in the person listening and facilitating. This cannot be done with just anyone. There could be negative risks even with trustworthy friends who simply lack the training to truly help you resolve the situations presented, though admittedly, a friend simply listening to another can often be of great benefit and is highly encouraged.

StressFreed session facilitators are trained to listen effectively, remain neutral in attitude, and direct the processee in a direction that will be most beneficial to the processee. StressFreed session facilitators are trained and do not interfere with the processee's self-determination and his process of self-realization. Getting emotionally involved, lecturing to, forming conclusions about the processee, expressing conclusions thus stifling the processee's own independent conclusions, making them wrong for what they says, and arguing with them, all take away from the effectiveness of the process of StressFreed. Strict confidentiality is also of the utmost importance and maintained by the StressFreed facilitator. Many years of developing the correct procedures have gone into creating effective StressFreed processing.

Who Can Benefit from StressFreed processing?

StressFreed processing is for the normal and able person who wants to better their condition by cleaning up the stumbling blocks that may be in the road to a happy and successful life. Ones job or environment can be emotionally stressful and you may want a means to better cope with that stress. Those who could benefit from StressFreed processing include the policeman, the business executive, the salesperson, the office worker, the factory or warehouse worker, the student - especially during teen years, the psychotherapist, the athlete, the social worker, the housewife, the lawyer, the surgeon, the teacher, the air traffic controller, and many other people from all walks of life. We all experience some form of stress.

StressFreed facilitators do not normally give sessions to clinically insane or those classed as mentally ill. Clients are expected to receive sessions on their own determination. Receiving StressFreed processing is similar in some ways to doing a dietary body cleanse in order to remove the toxins that almost inevitably accumulate in the body after a lifetime of living in a modern, chemical-laden environment. StressFreed processing is as much about rejuvenation of the mind as a body cleanse is about rejuvenation of the body. In fact, StressFreed processing could properly be alternately named emotional cleansing.

How safe is StressFreed processing?

Because no drug or hypnosis is ever used, receiving StressFreed processing is as safe as going to any facilitator who treats the client with dignity and respect.

"My memory is not very good. How could I contact memories I can't recollect?"

The advantage of working with an experienced StressFreed facilitator is that "faulty" memory needn't be a hindrance at all. Working on your own is somewhat like trying to tickle yourself, little stimulus is possible. However, when working with a facilitator, it is possible to stimulate memories that you didn't know were there. This is how the hidden and destructive parts of the traumatic past can be rooted out and cleared up. The parts that are easily remembered are not the problem. The problem lies with the hidden parts of the traumatic memories. It is most often found that a person will not be able to uncover these easily, if at all, without some help.

"But will I become dependent on a facilitator to handle all my stressful and traumatic experiences as they occur?"

No. As the processee goes through StressFreed processing, they becomes more confident about resolving their stress or problems. After a while, the processee will be able to apply some simple procedures them self. These procedures can then be used whenever the processee experiences upsetting events. The processee will be able to keep their own slate clean. This can be quite useful when dealing with family, study and work related situations. Heavy trauma, however, should ideally be dealt with professionally in session with a facilitator.

Applying StressFreed processing to work and business situations

Suppose you were at a workplace and an argument erupted between you and a co-worker (or boss or underling) that caused rancor between them and you. This "bad blood" situation, if left unhandled, could keep cropping up again and again, as it could with any relationship - whether business or personal. Eventually the work situation could become almost unbearable and productivity and job status could eventually suffer. In the case of any bad feelings you may have toward a clients or the public, that could pose a potentially serious threat to the business and to your personal earning power.

Many people complain about their work place. A lot of the dissatisfaction with work has to do with other people one associates with on the job. StressFreed processing applied to workplace situations can make going to work a far more desirable experience. It can help to neutralize trauma and/or mini-traumas and the stress one has accumulated in that work environment. Some clients have even noticed that the current problem or stress may even have a similarity to upsets from previous work environments.

Applying StressFreed processing to relationships and family situations

At one time or another, many of us have experienced clashes with the spouse, the significant other, our children, other family members, even friends and neighbors. These mini-traumas tend to have a cumulative effect on these relationships. The upsets may even happen over and over again and a pattern seems to develop. Behind these mini-traumas there may be a link to a major trauma of a similar nature in the past or even in childhood. The upsets and stress can set the stage for later patterns of reactive behavior within our self. We may even see this reactive behavior in others around us. StressFreed processing can help clean up these past relationship traumas and help the processee learn to control stress in the present. The processee can learn control over present situations by cleaning up traumas in their past. This will increase your ability to handle present situations as they arise. You become more self-determined and in charge of your own life. You can move away from a reactive life and, instead, have a healthier and happier active life.

Bad feelings don't have to accumulate to a boiling point. Relationships can start anew, even if they appear irreparable at the time. Your family and other relationships don't have to continue in a constant state of submerged feelings of resentment, anger, fear, or other undesirable conditions. You need never again consider your relationships to be "damaged goods" simply on the basis of past events. If you are to live life, why not live it to the fullest?

Is hypnosis, drugs, meditation, yogism, or any other system employed in StressFreed processing?

StressFreed processing does not depend on nor use any belief systems, superstitions, hypnosis, drugs, yoga methods, or any of many practices or systems offered in counseling. StressFreed processing has been used by facilitators or 30 years. It is dependable, effective, and time tested.

What is the cost of StressFreed processing?

StressFreed processing at this time costs only US$100. per hour (special discounts may apply). The client is charged only for the time between the actual start of the session and the end of it. "Chat time" is not included with the charge.

A selection of unsolicited success messages from our clients: (Sections of a personal nature were deleted)

"I noticed that I am stopping to consider before I react and I consider the concepts of love, understanding, and forgiveness and don't feel the need to react."
C.P. (Ontario, Canada).
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"Thank you for your work so far. It has been fun." F.F. (Toulouse, France)
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"Thank you. You give me space to see and formulate." J.S. (Brazil)
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"Things are different, for one thing, my stomach is not in a knot. I'm intrigued. Thank you much."
S.S. (Licensed Psychotherapist, N.Y. City)
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"Thank you for finding time for me. I appreciate your talents and help."
M.A. (San Francisco, Ca.)
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"I could see some improvement in the "out of sorts" feeling in A.M. Thanks very much."
Dr. N.H. (Orlando, Fl.)
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"After our session, I had a long talk with the person who referred me... He's always asking "is it permanent" Thanks again for the session - it was great."
N.T. (Licensed Psychotherapist, Northern Ca.)
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"As ever, many thanks for all ." J.E. (Albuquerque, N.M.)
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Many thanks for a GREAT 1st session. Looking forward to lots more over the months ahead. And who knows, maybe we will meet? Best," D.H. (Melbourne, Australia)
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"I am really impressed. It's like it's available as an option, with enough space to choose the most resourceful option." M.F. (Illinois)
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"Sorry for the delay. P.S. I feel great."
T.H. (New York City)
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"Thanks again for your unending conscientiousness, patience and endurance. The objectives we did recently were very helpful." J.W. (Cleveland Ohio)
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"Thank you so very much! I have not had a panic attack in 6 mos. since we had our session. I suffered daily after the Northridge earthquake and now, thanks to you and your treatment I am free of the fears. Gratefully," C.L. (Thousand Oaks, Ca)
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"Thank you for your patience. And especially thank you for the part you played in helping me get well." D.M. (Lowell, MA)
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CONTACT: If you have more questions about StressFreed processing or would like to schedule a session, send an e-mail to the attention of A. Elaine Henwood, PhD at: StressFreed@gmail.com

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